10 First Date Conversation Topics You Can’t Live Without

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When you’re on a first date, you’ll need to have some sort of plan about how you want the night to progress. Going into the battlefield and hoping for the best might be something grandma told you, but her advice is just about as good as listening to a custodian talk about mathematics (unless that custodian is Matt Damon).

Having a conversation plan doesn’t mean preparing a conversation and morphing it into a script between the two of you. It just means you will add a blueprint structure to the flow of a conversation. Once you have the basic structure, the first date conversation will be a breeze.

Here are the top 10 first date conversation starters and tips you need to know.

10. Breaking the ice

The easiest yet most effective phrase to get a conversation rolling is:

“How are you?”

This is an easy ice breaker that can open up doors for other topics. A typical response to this question will get the person talking about their day or an event that has occurred to them recently. From then on you can let the conversation flow naturally, the way it should.

If however, your date is an introvert (a shy person), you might receive a one word answer that is not going anywhere. Don’t let that discourage you, introverts are usually full of stories but they are not willing to share them with just anyone. In this case you might have to lead the conversation and get a little creative. Throw small questions that are relevant to your date’s responses; but don’t get too serious, keep the questions light at first.

You will notice that once your date is more comfortable with you, they will open up and the conversation will flow like water through a mesh bag.

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Inside This Article
1. Breaking the ice 6. Hobbies and interests
2. Current events 7. Siblings
3. Talk about friends 8. Career plans
4. Drinks personality 9. Past relationships
5. Films and music 10. Know when to quit


6 comments posted
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Posted by Guest on Wed, 01/22/2014 - 22:36
Just FYI: introverted =/=

Just FYI: introverted =/= shy. There are shy introverts, but there are more shy extroverts: people who *want* to talk and socialize, but don't know how or are afraid of rejection. Introversion is a personality orientation: shyness is a behavioral reaction to uncertainty or anxiety. It can become a habit or a trait, but for many introverts, it is only an excuse we felt we had to use growing up to explain our "unnaturally" reserved nature. As adults, many of us discover we are in fact not timid or fearful little weaklings, we simply don't care to talk as much as other people ;) personally, it is a very rare, special person that I find myself *wanting* to hold regular conversations with. I am happily friendly, polite, and brief with the rest.

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